I think motherhood is a lot like learning the alphabet. First you learn the letters, slowly and individually. You have to know each letter before you can ever move on to letter sounds much less words.
Once you have the letters down then you learn how they sound and eventually beginning combining them into sounds such as “ch”.
Once you have those steps down you can start sounding out words, slowly but surely one day you will get it. One day you will be able to read, but not without starting at the beginning and learning the alphabet first.
When I first became a mom there is no way I could have handled 3 little ones. I wouldn’t have had a clue what to do or even where to start.
When the boys were born I was just beginning to learn the ABCs of the serious learning curve I had ahead of me. I had to learn each letter through every diaper change, feeding cue, sleepless night, juggling two babies at the same time.
I had to learn about my boys, what they did when they were teething, sick, hungry, needing a diaper change or just wanting to snuggle.
I had to step back and realize that motherhood is a process of constant learning and I was just at the beginning of my journey. As the boys got older I got to where I knew them well. I could tell you if Noah had an ear infection or was just pulling on his ear for comfort. I could cook dinner with one baby on my hip while using my foot to bounce the other one in the bouncy seat.
I could read their feeding cues and have bottles ready before they were in full meltdown mode. I got them both napping at the same time and on the exact same schedule. I became more confident as a mom, and started getting to where I could sound out the words of motherhood.
Just when I started feeling like I could handle this, I could maybe read on my own we found out we were expecting Eli. Now 3 little ones 14 months and under I can’t do, there’s no way, I was just now starting to sound out words, how was I going to add another baby into the mix.
I honestly stressed for most of my pregnancy and cried the day Jeremy went back to work after Eli was born. I was just so stressed, it was like I had to learn how to be a mom all over again and that was partially true. I knew how to be a mom, I didn’t have such a learning curve, but now I had to learn how to juggle three babies instead of two.
Now we have our rhythm, we have a schedule and I feel like I have always had three little ones. It is second nature to me. I think back to just a few months ago and am amazed at the chaos and how overwhelmed I felt, now the exact same situation wouldn’t hardly phase me. I know what to do, which tactics work best, and if worse comes to worse I have harnessed the ability to tune out a toddler tantrum.
I have people tell me all the time that they have no idea how I do it and there is no way they could handle three little ones under two, but inside I am thinking “yes you could and you would be just fine”. You just do it. You start with the alphabet and before you know it you are reading chapter books!
I think I am finally reading chapter books. I have a long ways to go on this mommy journey and lots of learning to do, but I am finally at that point where I feel like I can handle what the day may bring. Of course all our days aren’t smooth and there are still moments that end in tears from all of us. Disciplining is hard, and it is even more difficult when you have two strong willed toddlers, but I have tools in my bag and if I ever need help I can always consult my mommy tutors.
So if you are a mommy just now learning your ABCs, be encouraged. Know that before long you will be sounding out words and then on to reading and next chapter books! You can do it, take each day one step at a time, give yourself grace when you make mistakes and know that you are not alone.
None of us could do it in the beginning, but one day those letters will start to spell words and your confidence will grow. One day you will be reading flawlessly and that will be the day when you look up and think I can do this, I can handle whatever the day brings. One day you will have the ABCs of motherhood down and you will move on to bigger and better chapters of life as a mommy.